Supporting your child with weight loss

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The first step in helping your child get to a healthy weight is to talk with his doctor. Your child’s doctor can set healthy goals for weight-loss and help with monitoring and support.

Getting support from friends and family will also help your child lose weight. Try to get the whole family to join a weight-loss plan, even if weight loss is not the goal for everyone. Weight-loss plans for children focus on healthy lifestyle habits. All family members can benefit from having healthier lifestyles.

Alternate Names

Food Discipline

Commend and reward your child when he makes good food choices and participates in healthy activities. This will encourage him to keep at it.

  • Do not use food as a reward or punishment. For example, do not offer food if your child does chores. Do not withhold food if your child doesn't do his homework.
  • Do not punish, tease, or put down children who are not motivated in their weight-loss plan. This will not help them.
  • Do not force your child to eat all the food on his plate. Infants, children, and teens need to learn to stop eating when they are full.

Show Them How to Do It

The best thing you can do to motivate your kids to lose weight is to lose weight yourself, if you need to. Lead the way and follow the advice you give them.

Tips to Help Along the Way

Try to eat as a family.

  • Have meals where family members sit down and talk about the day.
  • Set some rules, such as no lectures or teasing allowed.
  • Make family meals positive experiences.

Cook meals at home and involve your children in the meal planning.

  • Let children help prepare meals if they are old enough. If your children help decide what food to prepare, they are more likely to eat it.
  • Homemade meals are often healthier than fast food or prepared foods. They can also save you money.
  • If you are new to cooking, with a little practice, homemade meals can taste better than fast food.
  • Take your children food shopping so they can learn how to make good food choices. The best way to keep kids from eating junk food or other unhealthy snacks is to avoid having these foods in your house.
  • Never allowing any unhealthy snacks or sweets may result in your child sneaking these foods. It's OK to let your child have an unhealthy snack once in a while. The key is balance.

Help your children avoid tempting foods.

  • If you have foods like cookies, chips, or ice cream in your house, store them where they are hard to see or reach. Put ice cream at the back of the freezer and chips on a high shelf.
  • Move the healthier foods to the front, at eye level.
  • If your family snacks while watching TV, put a portion of the food in a bowl or on a plate for each person. It's easy to overeat straight from the package.

What to Do at School

School children can put pressure on each other to make poor food choices. Also, many schools do not provide healthy food choices.

Teach your children to avoid the sugary drinks in vending machines at school. Have your children bring their own water bottle to school to encourage them to drink water.

Pack a lunch from home for your child to bring to school. Add an extra healthy snack your child can share with a friend.


Version Info

  • Last reviewed on 5/10/2013
  • Neil K. Kaneshiro, MD, MHA, Clinical Assistant Professor of Pediatrics, University of Washington School of Medicine. Also reviewed by David Zieve, MD, MHA, Bethanne Black, and the A.D.A.M. Editorial team.

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